THE THREE IMPORTANT QUALITIES OF ANYONE WHO EVER MADE IT

Hello,

Welcome. I have been missing in action, this was occasioned by the need to sort out other areas of life. I am back and I am glad to bring constant wonderful inspiration your way once again. Today, I take time to remind you of three important qualities of anyone who was successful.

I have decided on this topic because recently, I have seen the importance of these qualities, I will explain in a bit. Permit me to encourage you to visit my youtube channel 'Pearl Okoli' if you want to see a funny side to me.

I would also like to reference three earlier write ups that are summarized in today's post. They are: DEAFNESS, Selective DUMBNESS and VISION. (you may need to click on the highlighted words to read them).

1.) Selective Deafness: This quality makes you realize that 'praise' is synonymous with 'criticism' and both should be ignored.

5 ways to make yourself findable

Yep, I did this a while back. It features my friend Tee kay in the background.
it is wonderful & honest, you should see it.

GRATITUDE

Hello All,

Let us talk about gratitude today because rarely was anyone who was not grateful successful.
Google defines gratitude as the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.

I prefer to focus more on 'being thankful'. Sometimes being bothered about those pressing issues which in all honesty need attention and cannot be overlooked, we forget to be thankful and it is not that we intend it but there is barely any time to be thankful/ count our blessings when we spend the whole day responding to the challenges, trying hard to have more things to be thankful for.

I once heard a joke about someone being so poor, they could not pay their rent and their neighbor being poorer because he could not even pay attention.

There is another joke about a fellow who complained he did not have enough space in his room to change clothes until he met this guy who had to leave his house in order to 'change' his mind.
These jokes may be funny but they hold some form of truth. No matter how bad your situation is, truth is 'it could be worse' so there is always something to be grateful for.

HOW IS GRATITUDE CONNECTED TO SUCCESS?

When life hands you lemons Part2

Hello All,

Let me in a few words say that no matter the situation you find yourself, there have been people in your shoes and some in worse shoes. The most important thing is that they came out of whatever situations they found unpleasant.

No doubt life can hand you lemons or sour grapes but your ability to make lemonade or whatever juice that people crave is success.

I hope the message has been sent, I thought of adding stories but it is plain truth enough. Go ahead find out what 'rod' you have in your hand so it can be turned to 'a snake'.

Love you,
Pearl.

WHEN LIFE HANDS YOU LEMONS

Like my friend Vicky says... When life hands you lemons, make lemonade.

Hello all,
I want you to think on the above, find out how you could change whatever unpleasant situation you have to an advantage.

More flesh coming tomorrow.
Love you,
Pearl.

FORGIVESS: A QUALITY OF CHAMPIONS 2

Hello,
As we started to discuss yesterday, forgiveness is letting go of hurt or wrong.

We also said it was easy to find someone who feels hurt or offended deliberately keeping the offender around in a bid to show off how well they are doing even while wronged. It becomes a deliberate attempt to pay back by doing better. This is a miserable experiment doomed to fail from the start and at worst inflict further injuries on the offended party.

Why get hurt twice?
Everything will not go wrong with a person simply because they offended you. It will not also all turn out right because you were offended and you feel karma should swing into action.

The Cure: What do champions know?
A person who has hurt you (no matter how deeply) will forget about it sooner than the one who has been offended. The Offender will have more time to ruminate on making other plans and have a 'no heart ache' bonus but the offended party will constantly have the offence in sight waiting for the right moment to pay back or for the law of karma to take effect so they can smile and say 'got ya'.

Karma is a lady, she takes her time to prepare. The more you pester her, the less interested she becomes.
When you put on your swag by forgiving the offender, you look cool and boy! does she dig cool!


It affords you the opportunity to move on with your life not being tied to one event or a series of events and become the best you can be (and NO, not because you are comparing yourself with someone small enough to have hurt you BUT because there is enough soaring space in your head & heart).

If are religious, it saves you from disobeying one commands of our faith and positions you for good.
(As an aside, I wonder who could possibly offend Albert Eistein, Aristotle, Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela & Bill Gates enough to hold in their heart without forgiveness)

SEARCH YOUR HEART FOR THAT OFFENDER AND DO WHAT CHAMPIONS DO... FREE UP SOARING SPACE

FORGIVENESS : A quality of champions

Today's inspiration is aptly titled forgiveness: a quality of champions

What is forgiveness? According to Pearl, forgiveness is being hurt/wronged but choosing to let go of the hurt/ wrong.
It is possible to hurt ourselves and somebody else, hence it is not uncommon to hear people encourage us to forgive ourselves.

Let me also state that 'NO ONE' has the power to change you/your character by hurting or wronging you, you alone have such power.



Permit me to add that all your past experiences whether positive or negative have combined to make you the you, you currently are but yet nothing in your past is half as strong as the will in your present. If you read the previous sentence again you will find that if you do not hate 'YOU' right now then you should be grateful to all the people and experience that were unpleasant. More importantly, Even if you hate you right now, the power to change is in your hand.

Now to the reason why I have chosen this topic to address:
We may have that one friend (maybe more) who holds a resentment for you OR who you hold a resentment against. It may have been in how he/she looked at you, talked to you, berated you, dumped you, tricked you, betrayed you and may be left you for dead. (feel free to switch the he/she for you & vice versa)

What we find is that the offended party consciously tries to keep the offender around for long enough to design a sumptuous table in the presence of him/her, only for them to get frustrated when it is taking longer for the table to get set.

What happens next? ... Find out more about Forgiveness tomorrow, ruminate on the above and let me put the icing on this forgiveness cake tomorrow

Love you,
Pearl