MY DAUGHTER, LOVE YOURSELF

Has no one told you they love you? Love yourself.

Has no one cheered you on? Cheer yourself, be the best and biggest cheerleader then work for yourself.

Has no one told you how beautiful you are?
You are so beautiful, made in the likeness of God but unless you are sure from the insides of you, you will listen to people who do not know better.

MY DAUGHTER! MARRIAGE SHOULD NOT STOP YOUR LIFE

Do not lose yourself dear.
I tell you, it is very easy to lose yourself or let time pass too quickly that before you realise it is too late.
1. Get an education, get more education, pursue a career if that is what you want (If I raised you, you can never be content being a house wife.)
2. Get a husband who dreams like you, who fulfiling your dreams will fulfil his.

MY DAUGHTER, THE MOST IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIP YOU NEED TO BUILD

Hello dear daughter,
The most important gift I hope to give you will be relationship with God.
The next important gift I hope God helps me give you is the best education. Cherish it!
If no one gives it to you, please feel free to get them for yourself. They are the most important things in life my dear.

Love you,
Pearl.

MY DAUGHTER, DO NOT BURN THE BRIDGE THAT LEADS YOU HOME

I will keep this very short.
Never burn the bridge that will lead you home.
Never be coerced to neglect family.
Never be so busy you neglect family.

MY DAUGHTER, THE VAGINA IS NOT A 'NATURAL RESOURCE'

Mama, as I fondly call you. If you have a sister, I may call her Ah-girl if nothing more weird comes to mind.

There is no natural resource in the female genitals so there is no need to try to make a fortune from it. You will never be able to make great sustainable wealth through the use of the vagina.

MY DAUGHTER GET RID OF BATS

While you are becoming the best version of yourself, most people see it and understand that you are 'on a roll' and headed to the top.

NEVER BE AFRAID TO STAND ALONE

Let me tell you a story about a time in my senior secondary school F. G. G. C. Benin, when students will cheat, some by asking others in the examination hall; other by hiding their notes on them and using the notes.

MY DAUGTER, BE ACCOUNTABLE

A wise person once said ''Be afraid of anyone who is not accountable to anyone and anything".

MY DAUGTER, FIND YOURSELF!

I know of a lot of people who never really lived their lives, never really lived for themselves.
These people had their major decisions and lives planned out by someone else either directly or indirectly.

MY DAUGHTER, SHATTER THE GLASS CEILING

My first encounter with the phrase 'shatter the glass ceiling' was at the immediate past U. S. Presidential race (yes, H. Clinton Vs D. Trump). The phrase in my opinion has to do with breaking boundaries and human created limitations.

New in! Series alert, My daughter...

I can't believe it took me so long to get around to blogging... More like it took me 2 years to figure out motherhood and focus a bit on me.

I am excited it's happening nonetheless, we are back and better. Motherhood is wonderful once you figure it out and it broadens your horizon.

I present to you a new series of blog posts and hope you get to follow me through it. So let's get on to our usual business shall we?

The next ten posts (you know how we do it. Just incase you don't, please visit my previous posts to find out) will be tagged MY DAUGTER, BE THE MAN! and it is dedicated to my daughter as well as females everywhere.

Love,
PEARL

HOW DO I MANAGE WORKPLACE POLITICS AS A WOMAN

Politics is not only synonymous with leadership at federal, state or local government level. In the workplace, there is corporate politics at play, it is therefore important to know how to comport one’s self and prevent being a casualty of workplace politics.

CONCLUSION:THESE 5 THINGS MAY PREVENT YOU GETTING YOUR DREAM JOB AS A WOMAN

Hello,
In the previous post, we started 'These five things may prevent you from getting your dream job'. Here is the conclusion of that post with a short personal experience.

 

THESE 5 THINGS THAT MAY PREVENT YOU GETTING YOUR DREAM JOB AS A WOMAN

Hello,

These are five major ways women let themselves down when they are earnestly searching for a job actually, the last one is no fault of theirs). Working on the first four points will increase your chances of being employed. Let’s get to it.

ARE THERE JOBS A WOMAN SHOULD NOT TAKE?

Hello,

The opinion widely held by Africans is that there are a few roles and jobs that women should not hold. We examine whether this is so.

SHOULD WOMEN WORK?

Hello,

Trying to answer the question should women work without relying on your culture, experiences and values takes research and willingness to learn so putting aside all previously held beliefs, extensive research on the subject matter began. Here is my finding:

Sexism comes to play when the same question is asked for both genders and the answers given are different.  For example, the answer to ‘Should women work?’ and ‘should men work?’ should be same. (Further reading)

Women who find themselves in the work place do not assist in bridging the gap between male and females present in the work place and would more readily give males a chance at work than their female counterpart. (Further reading)

WEALTH PRESERVATION AND WEALTH TRANSFER (SERIES FINALE)

Hello,

Wealth preservation and transfer will be the final post on the taking control of your finances as a woman series. I have confirmation that our resource person will do us the honour of writing on wealth preservation and transfer and I am eager to have her point of view but in the meanwhile, here is mine.

Wealth preservation includes all the decisions taken and actions geared towards ensuring acquired or created wealth is not lost. This can be done by reducing investment charges and other charges which deplete your funds, also by investing in extremely low risk instruments and ventures.

Quick reminder, we have examined Basic survival needs of a woman, Saving as a tool in financial planning, Cutting down cost, differentiated between savings and investment while emphasizing that they are not one and the same, wealth creation where we advised you to increase your source of income, in an earlier post series we have suggested you start with education and mentioned that it did not have to cost you (you may wish to see how HERE), wealth management and also talked on what to do when you have fallen off track with financial prudence.

Wealth transfer can mean the passing on of wealth from one to another

WHAT DO I DO? MY FINANCIAL PRUDENCE JUST SUFFERED A SETBACK

Hello,

Wealth preservation and transfer will be the final post on the taking control of your finances as a woman series. I have contacted a lady who is very passionate about wealth preservation and transfer; pray she guests here so there can be an exchange of knowledge.

It is important to state that every post in this series is very important if you are to take control of your finances. Please read all 10 of them if you haven’t done so.

Also, it is important to share these posts with friends and family so they can encourage you in this journey, join you if they will or just be available to discourage you from splurging. 

WHAT DO I DO? MY FINANCIAL PRUDENCE JUST SUFFERED A SETBACK.

If you have been with me on this journey of taking control of your finances, you will agree with me that it has led you to the place of financial prudence. I was glad to receive positive feedback from you especially concerning the ‘practical ways to get out of debt’ and ‘Savingsas a tool in taking control of your finances’. Thank you.

You may have been written out your expenses for the previous month, drawn a budget from there, and examined every item of your expenses and effected the desired changes but one or two months, even ten months down the line, your ‘financial control’ weakens and you splurge in a moment of indiscretion, What do you do after?

WOMEN AND RETIREMENT: HOW DO I RETIRE SEAMLESSLY?

Hello,

60 is the retirement age of Nigeria's workforce. There have been arguments for the adoption of a new retirement age. Some make a case for the adoption of 65years and some others 55years, whatever happens, one thing is certain we will not work at our jobs forever.

It is very important to clear the misconception that a lot of people hold. They believe all that matters is proper planning for the moment when retire and get a lump sum called gratuity, only then they try to start the business of their dreams. The problem with this is that they may spend their gratuity learning the business of their chosen fields through common beginner mistakes.

INVESTING as a way to take control of your finances

Hello,
Thank you for visiting everyday and being patient enough to understand about wealth creation,wealth management and now we are in the last phase (wealth preservation and transfer).

Previous posts include saving, cutting cost, getting rid of debt as ways to take control of our finances. Endeavor to click on the links to see them if you haven't done so already. They hold a lot of great insights.