MY DAUGHTER! MARRIAGE SHOULD NOT STOP YOUR LIFE

Do not lose yourself dear.
I tell you, it is very easy to lose yourself or let time pass too quickly that before you realise it is too late.
1. Get an education, get more education, pursue a career if that is what you want (If I raised you, you can never be content being a house wife.)
2. Get a husband who dreams like you, who fulfiling your dreams will fulfil his.

MY DAUGTER, BE ACCOUNTABLE

A wise person once said ''Be afraid of anyone who is not accountable to anyone and anything".

HOW DO I MANAGE WORKPLACE POLITICS AS A WOMAN

Politics is not only synonymous with leadership at federal, state or local government level. In the workplace, there is corporate politics at play, it is therefore important to know how to comport one’s self and prevent being a casualty of workplace politics.

THESE 5 THINGS THAT MAY PREVENT YOU GETTING YOUR DREAM JOB AS A WOMAN

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These are five major ways women let themselves down when they are earnestly searching for a job actually, the last one is no fault of theirs). Working on the first four points will increase your chances of being employed. Let’s get to it.

ARE THERE JOBS A WOMAN SHOULD NOT TAKE?

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The opinion widely held by Africans is that there are a few roles and jobs that women should not hold. We examine whether this is so.

SHOULD WOMEN WORK?

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Trying to answer the question should women work without relying on your culture, experiences and values takes research and willingness to learn so putting aside all previously held beliefs, extensive research on the subject matter began. Here is my finding:

Sexism comes to play when the same question is asked for both genders and the answers given are different.  For example, the answer to ‘Should women work?’ and ‘should men work?’ should be same. (Further reading)

Women who find themselves in the work place do not assist in bridging the gap between male and females present in the work place and would more readily give males a chance at work than their female counterpart. (Further reading)

WEALTH PRESERVATION AND WEALTH TRANSFER (SERIES FINALE)

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Wealth preservation and transfer will be the final post on the taking control of your finances as a woman series. I have confirmation that our resource person will do us the honour of writing on wealth preservation and transfer and I am eager to have her point of view but in the meanwhile, here is mine.

Wealth preservation includes all the decisions taken and actions geared towards ensuring acquired or created wealth is not lost. This can be done by reducing investment charges and other charges which deplete your funds, also by investing in extremely low risk instruments and ventures.

Quick reminder, we have examined Basic survival needs of a woman, Saving as a tool in financial planning, Cutting down cost, differentiated between savings and investment while emphasizing that they are not one and the same, wealth creation where we advised you to increase your source of income, in an earlier post series we have suggested you start with education and mentioned that it did not have to cost you (you may wish to see how HERE), wealth management and also talked on what to do when you have fallen off track with financial prudence.

Wealth transfer can mean the passing on of wealth from one to another

WOMEN AND RETIREMENT: HOW DO I RETIRE SEAMLESSLY?

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60 is the retirement age of Nigeria's workforce. There have been arguments for the adoption of a new retirement age. Some make a case for the adoption of 65years and some others 55years, whatever happens, one thing is certain we will not work at our jobs forever.

It is very important to clear the misconception that a lot of people hold. They believe all that matters is proper planning for the moment when retire and get a lump sum called gratuity, only then they try to start the business of their dreams. The problem with this is that they may spend their gratuity learning the business of their chosen fields through common beginner mistakes.

TAKING CONTROL OF YOUR FINANCES AS A WOMAN: WEALTH CREATION

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Wealth creation is the deliberate multiplication of your resources. In most cases wealth creation benefits beyond the creator of wealth, the community and the economy are beneficiaries of wealth creation also.

HOW TO MAKE FAMILY CHEER LEADING SQUAD ONE

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A successful woman remembers that she would prefer the presence of both her parents and her partner's attention at all times and know it is the same way (or to a different degree) her kids, wards and partner will prefer to have her time, input and attention in their lives. It is often better to have your family (Nuclear and extended to some degree) satisfied and prevent them from turning into clogs in your wheel of progress.

HOW EXPENSIVE IS STRESS RELIEF?

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This is the seventh post on the how to succeed as a woman series and we are almost at touch down. If you have missed the previous posts from lastweek, go HERE, HERE, HERE, HERE and HERE.

NO! I did not suggest a massage. Please read below to know more about the topic.
As you aim to succeed, it means you may not have idle time especially at the onset when you set out to achieving. Personally, I think success is not an idle man's friend so you may never really have idle time, you may find you need to consciously create the time to rest or do anything.

Seeing that you are going to get very busy

learning, planning, doing, why not think of the best way to relieve stress ahead of time so you do not lose time to stress.

It is important to plan consciously creating time rest but every now and then, there is the tendency to schedule work and lose track of time and soon we are burnt out and stressed.

How do you relieve stress? It is important to know the things that take stress off you. For some people it is a massage, for others, it is a holiday. For me, it is all of these and more but since I do not have the luxury of taking holidays frequently, I have found my lowest cost stress relief method.

My method goes back to studying, I had times when I was beyond stressed. I remember walking down the rows of products at Sainsbury, Morrison et al. They were close to my house in Fishponds and immediately feeling better. I also do the same in Nigeria here.

I have also found that taking walks help also but I favour walking round supermarkets, malls and shopping centers because for that time, my focus is on the beautiful row of products before me which means NO TIME FOR THINKING ABOUT WORK.

I encourage you to find your low cost stress relief before you get stressed. you cannot afford long, frequent breaks to 'clear your head' when you are focused on succeeding and retirement is still far away.

Enough said! Find your low cost stress relief method if being efficient and successful is important to you.

Do not be selfish about these strategies, share accross your social media platforms and subscribe to my blog posts. Please leave your comments below also, Thank you.
PEARL

CAN WORK EQUAL PLAY?

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Let us get straight to it, I am sure you have benefited from the previous three posts (Part 1,2,3). If you missed the introduction as well as previous posts see 'Introduction' , 'Part 1' ...

Just as a reminder, we are looking at how to succeed as a woman. The aim of this series of blog posts is to give you a front row access to the lives of successful Nigerian women and show what has helped them be successful so we can replicate or move closer to success.

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PLANNING LIFE TO THE BEST OF YOUR ABILITY

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I am glad we have made it thus far, I hope you have put to use what you have learned from part 1 and 2? If you missed them, go back and check them because they will definitely benefit you.

PLAN LIFE TO THE BEST OF YOUR ABILITY. Do I sound like an anti- faith individual who could use some faith right now? Are you the 'leave it to luck and happenstance, it will turn out fine' kind of individual? Or are we a mixture of both?

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How to succeed as a woman part 2 : I'd end in the kitchen anyway?

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Happy to continue the series we started on how to succeed as a woman.

TRUE OR FALSE: How many of the statements below are True
a) 1      b) 2        c) 3         d) 4        e) All of the above    f) None of the above

1.) The man in the family is expected to be the provider
2.) A woman does not have as much pressure as her male counterpart regarding climbing the work place ladder quickly
3.) The chances of having solutions to most monetary problems are high with a wealthy partner
4.) A truly successful woman is known by the success of her home. A neat woman is also known by her living conditions
5.) Most women aged 20 - 40 in my/your state of origin are happily married or on the way to marriage.


For most of us, we see this as true or a widely held belief. Society has taught women that they have no need to aspire to be great, doing okay is good enough and women should be dependent on men ( Fathers, husbands, and appalling but inclusive boyfriends and male acquaintances).

Now this is the point where you read the above 5 statements again and try to justify that there is nothing wrong with each of them.
Let me save you further stress and show you the original 5 thoughts that have been dressed up to look like the 5 above.

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INTERESTING READ: My Labour Story by Anita

As shared by our friend Anita, Enjoy! :-)

I woke up on the morning of Jan 8 2015, after a very troubled tiring sleep during which my baby kicked and turned all night! In retrospect, i believe he was adjusting into the birthing position.
So... I woke up... and had to use the bathroom But I was wet. So I thought to myself, "Who would have thought I would pee on myself at night???" I chuckled to myself as I remembered other mom stories of how they had pee on themselves. But this wasn't pee! No sire! My water had broken.