CONCLUSION:THESE 5 THINGS MAY PREVENT YOU GETTING YOUR DREAM JOB AS A WOMAN

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In the previous post, we started 'These five things may prevent you from getting your dream job'. Here is the conclusion of that post with a short personal experience.

 

THESE 5 THINGS THAT MAY PREVENT YOU GETTING YOUR DREAM JOB AS A WOMAN

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These are five major ways women let themselves down when they are earnestly searching for a job actually, the last one is no fault of theirs). Working on the first four points will increase your chances of being employed. Let’s get to it.

ARE THERE JOBS A WOMAN SHOULD NOT TAKE?

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The opinion widely held by Africans is that there are a few roles and jobs that women should not hold. We examine whether this is so.

SHOULD WOMEN WORK?

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Trying to answer the question should women work without relying on your culture, experiences and values takes research and willingness to learn so putting aside all previously held beliefs, extensive research on the subject matter began. Here is my finding:

Sexism comes to play when the same question is asked for both genders and the answers given are different.  For example, the answer to ‘Should women work?’ and ‘should men work?’ should be same. (Further reading)

Women who find themselves in the work place do not assist in bridging the gap between male and females present in the work place and would more readily give males a chance at work than their female counterpart. (Further reading)

WOMEN AND RETIREMENT: HOW DO I RETIRE SEAMLESSLY?

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60 is the retirement age of Nigeria's workforce. There have been arguments for the adoption of a new retirement age. Some make a case for the adoption of 65years and some others 55years, whatever happens, one thing is certain we will not work at our jobs forever.

It is very important to clear the misconception that a lot of people hold. They believe all that matters is proper planning for the moment when retire and get a lump sum called gratuity, only then they try to start the business of their dreams. The problem with this is that they may spend their gratuity learning the business of their chosen fields through common beginner mistakes.

TAKING CONTROL OF YOUR FINANCES AS A WOMAN: YOUR SALARY IS NOT SUFFICIENT?

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In the second post, you must have read that no 9 – 5 job can be called wealth creation. At best, you are helping another create wealth which is good in a sense but not what you set out to achieve. This is not to say that it is wrong to have a job, many people begin from working jobs and using salary to create wealth.

I honestly have not come across a person who is so content with their pay cheque at month’s end; this goes a long way to show that wealth is a thing of the mind. While struggling to create wealth, one has to be ‘content but hungry’. Content enough to know that it is not money that makes a person happy. The pursuit of money is almost never ending but you need to be hungry enough to want to ‘get up’ and create wealth (Trust me, the process is not a blink).

If you feel your salary is not sufficient to meet your needs, guess what? Half or more than half Nigeria’s population feel same. The only difference between most is their ability to manage scarce resources.

TAKING CONTROL OF YOUR FINANCES AS A WOMAN: WEALTH CREATION

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Wealth creation is the deliberate multiplication of your resources. In most cases wealth creation benefits beyond the creator of wealth, the community and the economy are beneficiaries of wealth creation also.

HOW TO MAKE FAMILY CHEER LEADING SQUAD ONE

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A successful woman remembers that she would prefer the presence of both her parents and her partner's attention at all times and know it is the same way (or to a different degree) her kids, wards and partner will prefer to have her time, input and attention in their lives. It is often better to have your family (Nuclear and extended to some degree) satisfied and prevent them from turning into clogs in your wheel of progress.

HOW DO I NOT FEEL LIKE A FAILURE? NO JOB! NO PARTNER!

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If you have made it thus far, Congratulations, it shows you are benefiting from this series, remember this is part six of a ten part series so stick with me. If you have not read the past five posts, please do so.

You may say I have no job, how do I cope or start succeeding? Or I have a little education (or a lot of it), I have removed all stereotypes from my mind, I have even tried planning e.t.c. but I have also been searching for a job without success.



The unemployment rate in Nigeria is very high and most people who find work are not suitably placed, their capacity for performance is being underutilised. It is tough but remember tough times hardly outlive tough people. Remember Part 4 where you were advised to play with work/ work with play?. While you are applying to jobs, you may as well.
Remember Part 1 where we said get a little education (If you did not read it, you cannot understand it), it also comes in handy here. It is important to be busy while applying to Jobs.

Scan your environment, if no one will employ you, you have to employ yourself (Entrepreneurship). A mentor advised me never to look at myself as too big or educated to do any job or business including travelling to villages to buy from farmers and package for sale. While I did not do that exactly, I went to learn how to bake and would sell to my neighbours who had shops thus making money in hundreds (Did I mention I have an international M.Sc Finance?) while still blogging and play-earning with the radio. If you cannot get a job and still insist on working in a 9am-5pm, volunteer for free at an organisation and improve both your curriculum vitae and chances of getting employment.

It is also easy to feel like a failure when you do not have a partner in our society especially when you are approaching your mid 30's. Society seems to rubbish whatever achievement we have and think we got them by some preposterous and loose means. this is where Part 2 comes in handy for us.

Firstly, remember no other person holds the key to your happiness but yourself and you deserve a pat on the back for not accepting any 'Tobi' as your partner just yet.
Disabuse your mind of the stereotypes and do not get desperate, just be findable.

More important, read Part 2 : you are not a failure because you have not found a suitable pair, there is still more to life. most people find when they stop bothering themselves about it and focus on working on themselves to be better versions, they get positive result.

Lastly, We should not derive a value for ourselves from the number of relationships that did not work out for us. The reason I bother with these is because it is important to let the extra weight of worry go so you can focus on achieving.
FAILURE IS THE LAST BUSSTOP OF LIFE, THERE IS NO REASON TO FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE REACHED IT BEFORE YOUR LIFE IS OVER - PEARL

PEARL.

Faster or Farther

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This post title is a question, take a minute to ponder and answer it.

Faster or Farther?
One day, my Father told us of something that happened when he was recently employed as an accountant by the Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation (N.N.P.C.). A colleague of his told him that 'in NNPC, it is either you choose to go very fast or very far but you cant have the both of them'.
Of course, my Dad elected to go far while some others by their actions showed they only cared about going fast.

I have realised that this question stares us all in the face at one time or the other.
Let me take the liberty of explaining far or fast (what it means to me).

FARTHER: To get ahead, to continue in positive motion towards a goal and be ahead (when it matters) in comparism to a similar subject (my definition - I hope I have not confused you.)

FAST: To speedily make motion (my definition once more).

In this sense, the option before my father as well as everyone else was:
Acquire so much money by all means necessary on the job, be financially well off than your peers through bribery, corruption e.t.c (a.k.a Focus on now) OR be satisfied with your pay, do your job and rise slowly, steadily financially & otherwise (Focus on the future).

I have seen a lot of examples and have come to the conclusion that the 'grab all I can find' mentality does not lead very far but at the end of the day it is up to you... faster or farther?